Feedback is valuable for people who want to grow. Successful people are happy to receive feedback because it helps them develop and be better.
Not every feedback is true and honest, so it should not be taken for granted. Before receiving feedback, you should listen, think and then react if necessary.
7 tips for giving feedback:
- Give information based on your experience only
- Give information that is related only to someone’s behavior, not to your interpretation of someone’s behavior. If someone behaves badly describe this behavior, do not say that it is unpractical or rude
- Keep in mind the reason you are giving feedback. Is it because you want to say something to someone or you want that person to improve themselves and their behaviour?
- What is the purpose of giving feedback? How will this affect me and the person I provide with the information?
- Get rid of the ego. You do not have to be right, but it’s OK to have your opinion
- Clearly state that this is just your opinion, not the fact or the universal truth
- Leave the person in a good state
*** When giving feedbacks ask a person what they think about themselves in a given situation before giving any information. You will be surprised how constructive people can be and how well they can recognize the behavior that should be improved. Let them give feedback to themselves first and then start looking for the solution together.
7 tips for receiving feedback:
- Pre-decide that the person who is giving you feedback has good intentions
- Listen carefully
- Ask questions only if some part of the feedback is not clear to you
- Do not justify or give excuses
- Say thank you
- Think about it later
- Get what you need for further growth
Feedback is constructive communication with the purpose of improving a person’s performance. Enjoy being told how others perceive you, you do not have this privilege very often.
Author of the text: Dr Darko Cvetković IANLP Trainer and Reiki Master